A few days back, a good buddy lost his job. Having just married and brought his wife over to a new land, his voice was writ with pain and fear of the unknown. I heard him out calmly and in my own way told him to chin-up.
Why is it that we always manage to stay calm when we hear another’s trouble but find our own issues too big to face? Wouldn’t that kind of calmness help us face our own fears and insecurities?
I have heard that if you do end up facing a lion, the last thing you should do is run. The beast’s natural instinct is to chase and bite the neck. Suffocate its kill and eat it up. But if you stay put, it gets confused. Nature hasn’t prepared it to deal with something unnatural. Likewise, it’s important not give in to fear.
PS: No actual testimonial from any man alive after facing a real lion is available at the time of posting of this blog.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
This one is really nice...
A LOVELY MESSAGE.
A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS
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1. What were the five words ?
2. What is the implication of this story?
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ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you
think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
This story is really worth reading. ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something called LIFE.
A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.
QUESTIONS
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1. What were the five words ?
2. What is the implication of this story?
scroll down to read....
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ANSWER :
The husband just said "I am with you Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you
think.
MORAL OF THE STORY
This story is really worth reading. ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something called LIFE.
Friday, April 18, 2008
“What the F$@%?” moments
Life is one big accumulation of moments. It is said; when the soul is about to part the body just a few moments of the entire life lived come to our head. It’s really up to us to hold on to happy moments.
So its best you let those “what-the-F$@%-moments” go sooner. That’s a conscious effort.
What are “What the F$@%?” moments? Anything that you feel shouldn’t have happened the way it did!
I haven’t lived that long. But listed below are random acts that happened to myself or to people I care about and they are my current top WTF moments.
People who disrespect their parents. Don’t mean petty fights. But people who go to the extent of cutting-off ties.
- Accept and love your parents.
Early risers who disturb people who love to sleep in the morning. Come on, let us finish our dreams.
- Everyone has different body clocks.
People who think they are God’s gift to mankind.
- Willing to admit mistakes is strength.
People who say, “I don’t care…” or “I don’t wanna know…”
- Willing to learn is a show of adaptability.
That phase in your life when you live without a direction. Not really caring if it was a Monday or a Friday.
- It’s your life. Only you yourself have the right to influence it.
Catching your lover cheating on you red-handed.
- If it happened once. It will happen again.
The lover who cheated on you makes you believe that it was you who drove them up that path.
- It’s the only way they can shift responsibility. Sort your own mistakes and move on.
When you make your friend a lover only to realise that breaking-up breaks that friendship too.
- Friendship is done amongst equals. Break-up shifts that balance.
Missing your loved ones happy occasions because of events that you don’t have control on.
- Disappointments are part of life.
When one fine morning you wake up and see that stuff you believed in were all wrong.
- Both good and bad are our own responsibility.
When a thinking man becomes ‘thoughtless’. Thoughtless here is to say, absolutely no thoughts.
- Take a break. Be with your family. Or do something that is not you.
When you finally see through those WTF moments, you realise that they didn’t even warrant a list!
So its best you let those “what-the-F$@%-moments” go sooner. That’s a conscious effort.
What are “What the F$@%?” moments? Anything that you feel shouldn’t have happened the way it did!
I haven’t lived that long. But listed below are random acts that happened to myself or to people I care about and they are my current top WTF moments.
People who disrespect their parents. Don’t mean petty fights. But people who go to the extent of cutting-off ties.
- Accept and love your parents.
Early risers who disturb people who love to sleep in the morning. Come on, let us finish our dreams.
- Everyone has different body clocks.
People who think they are God’s gift to mankind.
- Willing to admit mistakes is strength.
People who say, “I don’t care…” or “I don’t wanna know…”
- Willing to learn is a show of adaptability.
That phase in your life when you live without a direction. Not really caring if it was a Monday or a Friday.
- It’s your life. Only you yourself have the right to influence it.
Catching your lover cheating on you red-handed.
- If it happened once. It will happen again.
The lover who cheated on you makes you believe that it was you who drove them up that path.
- It’s the only way they can shift responsibility. Sort your own mistakes and move on.
When you make your friend a lover only to realise that breaking-up breaks that friendship too.
- Friendship is done amongst equals. Break-up shifts that balance.
Missing your loved ones happy occasions because of events that you don’t have control on.
- Disappointments are part of life.
When one fine morning you wake up and see that stuff you believed in were all wrong.
- Both good and bad are our own responsibility.
When a thinking man becomes ‘thoughtless’. Thoughtless here is to say, absolutely no thoughts.
- Take a break. Be with your family. Or do something that is not you.
When you finally see through those WTF moments, you realise that they didn’t even warrant a list!
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Meet the Faker
Today, I met a friend who was cheated and hurt by a person, who easily fit into the ‘harmless’ category.
You give your trust. Believe in that person. Let go of your security net. And one day, kaboom… you don’t really know that person. Yes, let me introduce you to ‘the faker’. This faker is genderless. And he or she will even pretend to the dumbest person of the world. Harmless, you say? They are silent most of the time. Biding their time to wham you, when you are least prepared.
Have met my fair share of fakers. From big talking sales executives to people who have not hesitated to ‘kill-off’ their non-existent father!
Bizarre and extreme, isn’t it? I guess this automatically qualifies me to write this.
You can’t really identify these fakers. But you know you are out of the zone when a person goes out of the way to sound naïve or ignorant. Just watch closely at the behavior right after the solution is announced. If he/she sucks up to you – Say hello to faker!
They are full of drama. Every single incident of their life is large and too huge for them.
Another proven point is the old Chinese saying, “A person who discloses only his/her bad times is a bad friend to keep.”
So thank you my ex-fakers for those hard lessons.
I finally left my friend with the thought that “If you want to cheat someone, it’s the easiest thing to do.” He needed to be told that trusting another makes us human. And in no way is he guilty of being stupid - the lowest low of being a human.
You give your trust. Believe in that person. Let go of your security net. And one day, kaboom… you don’t really know that person. Yes, let me introduce you to ‘the faker’. This faker is genderless. And he or she will even pretend to the dumbest person of the world. Harmless, you say? They are silent most of the time. Biding their time to wham you, when you are least prepared.
Have met my fair share of fakers. From big talking sales executives to people who have not hesitated to ‘kill-off’ their non-existent father!
Bizarre and extreme, isn’t it? I guess this automatically qualifies me to write this.
You can’t really identify these fakers. But you know you are out of the zone when a person goes out of the way to sound naïve or ignorant. Just watch closely at the behavior right after the solution is announced. If he/she sucks up to you – Say hello to faker!
They are full of drama. Every single incident of their life is large and too huge for them.
Another proven point is the old Chinese saying, “A person who discloses only his/her bad times is a bad friend to keep.”
So thank you my ex-fakers for those hard lessons.
I finally left my friend with the thought that “If you want to cheat someone, it’s the easiest thing to do.” He needed to be told that trusting another makes us human. And in no way is he guilty of being stupid - the lowest low of being a human.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Beauty
There are moments when my entire life so far, all that happened, all those people who touched my life, flashes in front of my eyes…
First of all, those moments in itself are not in seconds, it stretches on like an ocean of time. For me, it is like lying on my back on the grass and watching the night sky… or watching the autumn leaves letting go… or my grandmother’s hands and the way her skin seemed like soft paper. So many days, yet only so few moments.
I guess I could be pretty pissed-off with the wrongs that happened, but it’s hard to stay mad when there’s so much of beauty in this world.
Sometimes I feel like seeing it all at once and it’s too much. My heart fills up like a balloon that’s about to burst. And then I remember to relax... and try not to hold on to it. It flows through me like rain and I can’t feel anything but gratitude… for every single moment of my stupid life.
May be you won’t have an idea about what I am talking about. But don’t worry. You will someday.
First of all, those moments in itself are not in seconds, it stretches on like an ocean of time. For me, it is like lying on my back on the grass and watching the night sky… or watching the autumn leaves letting go… or my grandmother’s hands and the way her skin seemed like soft paper. So many days, yet only so few moments.
I guess I could be pretty pissed-off with the wrongs that happened, but it’s hard to stay mad when there’s so much of beauty in this world.
Sometimes I feel like seeing it all at once and it’s too much. My heart fills up like a balloon that’s about to burst. And then I remember to relax... and try not to hold on to it. It flows through me like rain and I can’t feel anything but gratitude… for every single moment of my stupid life.
May be you won’t have an idea about what I am talking about. But don’t worry. You will someday.
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